decrease time-to-stale (#8539)

* decrease time-to-stale

* note

* post wording

* only consider assigned PRs

* update wording

.github/workflows/stale.yml

@@ -13,11 +13,12 @@ jobs:
     steps:
       - uses: actions/stale@b5d41d4e1d5dceea10e7104786b73624c18a190f # v10.2.0
         with:
-          stale-pr-message: 'This PR is stale because it has been open 30 days with no activity. Remove stale label or comment or this will be closed in 5 days.'
-          close-pr-message: 'This PR was closed because it has been stalled for 5 days with no activity.'
-          days-before-stale: 30
-          days-before-close: 5
+          stale-pr-message: 'This PR is stale because it has been open 14 days with no activity. Remove stale label or comment or this will be closed in 3 days.'
+          close-pr-message: 'This PR was closed because it has been stalled for 3 days with no activity. If you would like to resume working on this, please reach out to the maintainer team on Discord or leave a comment here to have it reopened.'
+          days-before-stale: 14
+          days-before-close: 3
           days-before-issue-stale: -1
+          include-only-assigned: true
   stale-wip:
     permissions:
       pull-requests: write

upcoming-release-notes/stale-time.md

@@ -0,0 +1,6 @@
+---
+category: Maintenance
+authors: [matt-fidd]
+---
+
+Decrease time after which a PR is considered stale