On shutdown, reset the established TCP connections

Previously, the established TCP connections (both client and server)
would be gracefully closed waiting for the write timeout.

Don't wait for TCP connections to gracefully shutdown, but directly
reset them for faster shutdown.

(cherry picked from commit 6ddac2d56d)

lib/isc/netmgr/netmgr.c

@@ -2686,6 +2686,7 @@ reset_shutdown(uv_handle_t *handle) {
 	isc_nmsocket_t *sock = uv_handle_get_data(handle);
 
 	isc__nmsocket_shutdown(sock);
+	isc__nmsocket_detach(&sock);
 }
 
 void
@@ -2706,14 +2707,19 @@ isc__nmsocket_reset(isc_nmsocket_t *sock) {
 		break;
 	}
 
-	if (!uv_is_closing(&sock->uv_handle.handle)) {
+	if (!uv_is_closing(&sock->uv_handle.handle) &&
+	    uv_is_active(&sock->uv_handle.handle))
+	{
 		/*
 		 * The real shutdown will be handled in the respective
 		 * close functions.
 		 */
+		isc__nmsocket_attach(sock, &(isc_nmsocket_t *){ NULL });
 		int r = uv_tcp_close_reset(&sock->uv_handle.tcp,
 					   reset_shutdown);
 		UV_RUNTIME_CHECK(uv_tcp_close_reset, r);
+	} else {
+		isc__nmsocket_shutdown(sock);
 	}
 }
 
@@ -2751,13 +2757,26 @@ shutdown_walk_cb(uv_handle_t *handle, void *arg) {
 
 	switch (handle->type) {
 	case UV_UDP:
+		isc__nmsocket_shutdown(sock);
+		return;
 	case UV_TCP:
-		break;
+		switch (sock->type) {
+		case isc_nm_tcpsocket:
+		case isc_nm_tcpdnssocket:
+			if (sock->parent == NULL) {
+				/* Reset the TCP connections on shutdown */
+				isc__nmsocket_reset(sock);
+				return;
+			}
+			/* FALLTHROUGH */
+		default:
+			isc__nmsocket_shutdown(sock);
+		}
+
+		return;
 	default:
 		return;
 	}
-
-	isc__nmsocket_shutdown(sock);
 }
 
 void