there is no need for a caller to reference-count socket objects.
they need tto be able tto close listener sockets (i.e., those
returned by isc_nm_listen{udp,tcp,tcpdns}), and an isc_nmsocket_close()
function has been added for that. other sockets are only accessed via
handles.
(cherry picked from commit 9e740cad21)
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