[v9_9] refactor max-recursion-queries

- the counters weren't set correctly when fetches timed out.
  instead we now pass down a counter object.

(cherry picked from commit 05e448935c)
(cherry picked from commit 6c049c57d9)

bin/tests/system/reclimit/ns1/root.db

@@ -18,3 +18,5 @@ ns.nil. 60 IN A 10.53.0.1
 ns.tld1. 60 IN A 10.53.0.1
 example.org. 60 IN NS direct.example.org.
 direct.example.org. 60 IN A 10.53.0.2
+example.net. 60 IN NS direct.example.net.
+direct.example.net. 60 IN A 10.53.0.4